Some of my thoughts during past few years
"You are a good teacher when you:
Praise your students, support them, encourage, advice, help, navigate, sometimes provoke, understand, value, approve, validate, sometimes spoil, educate, inform, care, listen attentively, show interest, motivate, inspire, change."
When you don't terorize yourself anymore, and start to practise self-love, most of your problems will be solved if not all. When you start to love yourself, you will value your life and time. And you will not let people hurt you or treat you ill, you will be immune to people's quiddity, caginess, abuse, shalowness, ignorance, ignoral and vanity."
"Sometimes in life we must "change" in order to survive, to live, to love, to grow, to improve, to thrive and to reborn. We change, move on and leave everything and even everyone that doesn't lift our spirit and encourage us to become "the better version of ourselves"."
"You not loving me, was the beginning of me loving myself."
"What to do about stress:
Everyone of us has stress in their life to some extent. And it isn't something pleasant, it doesn't make us calm and in peace with ourselves or the world around us. Why is this so? because stress is produced by stress hormones like cortisol. And by no means it is healthy for you. It can debilitate you physically and mentally. There is part of your brain that is called amygdala and this part is responsible for your safety, it triggers "fight or flee" reaction when you are in real danger. But when you stress you are too in "fight or flee".
Fortunately there are many things you can do to reduce stress: you can do sports, have hobbies, learn new language, communicate with people that make you happy, special breathing technics, travel, educate yourself and much more.
" Happiness is a state of being, not having." What a beautiful and transcending meaning this sentence has."
"What makes you different is a very thing that makes you special
I think that we shouldn't underestimate our true talents and personality...our true talents represent ...us. They are our...fingerprint. Very often we think, that we shouldn't be different from others, from peers, friends or family. So we learn to copy everybody or at least people we admire or people everybody admires. We make from ourselves a copy machine. And forget that we are human, different, incomparable, extraordinary. Maybe after years, and decades we discover ourselves. Especially when we start loving ourselves, truly and for the first time. At that time our differences become our special traits and liked by others. That's when we forget about copy machine and embrace our originality. The sooner the better, even when it's too late it's better than never."
"We like people who are like us, in other words, we like people with who we share the same values.
We meet someone, we like them or are in love with them, out of blue, and we don't know why, is it the sparkle in their eyes? Is it the first impression? Is it their magnetic or rebellious personality? The charm, intelligence or untamed nature? Something draws us toward them. A strong feeling. The feeling that undresses us from all impurities and temperance. An immediate bond. Spiritual attraction, maybe spiced with physical attraction too. Scientists say "that we often feel attraction to people who seem to be like us", this might sound counterintuitive to what we already know. They say "that we are much more to consider someone as likable if we share the same values, and have in common some similarities in personal traits or behaviour". But basically, what they mean is that the attraction is based on "shareable concept of values"."
After years the same things get sometimes on our nerves, can irritate or obstruct us. We don't have to change radically the way we live, people we meet, food we eat. Things that are ment to last for years, are grown slow. Sometimes, little change here and there, can make a big difference. Novelty is opposite to known, familiar, comfortable, safe, regular, boring. Novelty, is when you don't play it safe, when you are on the edge of something, when you buy oneway ticket, when you say goodbye to attachment, when you open new doors."
" Take my hand and let's go really deep...let's visit places we have never been before...let's discover undiscovered...let's feel, sense and realize things that are meaningful. I try not to live shallow, I'm always doing two things, either diving deep or flying too high. If you want to understand me, overtake me, sometimes neither do I understand myself :-)
People criticize those who think a lot, treat them with suspicion, think of them that they are weird, odd, one of the minority. Some people can spend their time alone for hours or even days, only few they need to be surrounded with. Sometimes thoughts can be not only your friends but also your enemies. If they are your enemies don't fight with them. According to psychologists you have some options: to ignore, to not take them seriously or work with them. "
I will add here one quote: "The unhappiest people are those who need company of others all the time.""
"Strip and tease
Strip all the layers that obstruct you physically, emotionally and mentally and you will feel relief. You will be soul naked, raw, bio and natural, unpredictable, irreplaceable, unforgettable. You will tease those who like you or dislike you, you will be an instant message, an urgent, and rude reminder to be real and whole."
"Fifty shades of blue
I love blue colour and all shades of blue. I try to surround myself with blue, wear blue and paint blue pictures as much as possible. I love blue sky, blue eyes, blueberries, blue diamonds and blues. I even love idioms in English language like: once in a blue moon, out of blue, feeling blue :-)"
"You can't run away from unpleasant experiences or memories, but you can make a peace in your mind with them. They will eventually disappear.
Very often we come to wisdom, we mature, we grow spiritually by the hardest times and failures.
Failure, disappointment, humiliation, abuse, not reciprocated feelings can break you or heal you. It's up to you, and it's according to whether you are "a problem thinker" or "a solution thinker"."
"It's your obligation, commitment and it's your decision to be your own superstar, superhero, super extra one for yourself for life time.
You don't need the luggage to carry, "free you come, free you go", "alone you are born (unless you have a twin sister or brother), alone you die."
No attachment is your inner freedom."
"Do you have drive in everything you do ? In every step you make ? The passion ? The ultimate love for life itself ? The magnetism that attracts you to "things" that you love ? So, don't hold on...just wake up, shack up and get up. Walk your path, dance your way up the ice-berg of your goals, dreams and love(s)."
"For me to be creative in life, to be in flow and to surf "the wave of life", to let go of everything what I need not, to let in everything that I fall in love with, to surrender, to be productive in the most optimal way, I need an emotional trigger. An impuls that mixes my inner world with the outer. Something stronger than myself, something enormously "distant and close" at the same time. Something that pulsates together with my heart beat. Then, I can be creative, active, proactive, reactive, formative, alive."
"The more I live, the more I understand the temporariness of everything around us."
"Good realationship is something you build, everyday with the intention for it to last as longer as possible, as stronger as possible."
"If you want to take, give."
"Hope never dies, unless you destroy it."
"In order to read between lines, to catch the unspoken thoughts and feeelings, be silent and look deeper into eyes of other person."
"Listen to actions not to words. Actions speak louder."
"I have not figured it out yet, what is better to be shallow or deep ?"
"Life is a river, it will take you to unknown places."
"I read for new ideas, I don't read for entertainment."
"I watch Youtube for information, motivation and inspiration, I seldom watch movies for entertainment."
"Your study of English language should be very appealing, attractive, exciting, positive emotion and senses triggering, just like tasty comfort food that you love to binge. Make it that way. Fall in love with it, so you can rise. Make from your learning process, something you look forward to.. day and night, something you love to the moon and back, something that continuously stimulates your mind and brain, rises your dopamin levels and makes you want more and more, unless you do that, you will be bored and your learning will remain dull, demotivating and you will make no progress."
" There is no me or you, only we." When we live by this statement, by this truth, we come to " enlightened selfishness " as Aristotel said. What is enlightened selfishness ? It is when you do good things to people without expecting anything in return. You stop expecting gratitude from them, and you dont focus on ingratitude. I try to implement this in my teaching process of English language, together as a class, teacher-students, we can go further and beyond planned expectations if we can refucus our attention from " how can I obtain more profit here " to " how can I better and improve together with others now and here. "
"In order to be a good learner of English language, a fluent speaker and succeed at learning it as a second language and mastering it efficiently in all areas of your life you need to make a lot of introspection, self-reflection and evaluation besides a lot of practise at lessons and in real life. In some areas you can definitely apply the 80/20 principle especially in grammar and focus your predominant attention and intention on vocabulary. It's your legitimate right."
"A problem stops being a problem when you stop seing it as a problem."
"Life always reminds us that nothing is forever."
"My way is the way of heart."
"The less you push and try hard, the easier things are and come to you."
"The door of cage is open, it's up to you whether to stay in it or to leave..."
"Your heart will attract your people."
"Fight or flee" mode evolves high adrenaline or cortisol."
"You are what you eat. You are what you say. You are what you think."
"Food is your medicine. Food can be a poison or a medicine. Food can heal our ailments."
"Food can heal physical ailments whereas meditation can heal mental imbalances."
"Anyone can be smart but not everybody can be wise."
"Don't postpone your happiness to future, it may never come. Live here and now."
"Love shouldn´t hurt otherwise it´s not love. But, addiction, false love, dependence, limerance or atachment."
"Reading is like a food for my mind. It's the best medicine, pill, tablet, cure and remedy. It's the best free time activity. It's the right choice. Love is food for my soul. Food is food for my body. But reading is food for my mind."
"The most beautiful moments: are those when we are at our highest vibe, when we are creative, wild, unfiltered, living adventurous, and when we face our fears and let them go."
"It's better not to take things literally, it's better not to take things too seriously and it's better not to take things personally."
"To change: is to say goodbye to anything that is part from your past, when you step to your future."
"Did you know that love has many languages...languages which people around the world can use: To give gifts. To praise and compliment. To be with you, hold, cuddle and kiss. To speak and share. To help."
"Maybe it is better to be "an interesting woman" rather than "only a beautiful woman."
"I think that there are more than five primal senses, for example: sense of creativity, sense of adventure, sense of responsibility, sense of authenticity, sense of humour, equity, and beauty."
"Art lessons that I attend are my little trips to unknown."
"Your heart will attract your people.ô
"Very often the strangers can be more close to us than our family. It's sad, but it's the reality.
Sometimes it's better to be alone than among crowds where no one understands you.
It's better to say goodbye than to pretend that everything is fine.
When there is no transparency it's difficult to breath, and to be yourself.
When you can talk freely with someone about any topic such as sex, money and problems, without judgement and prejudices, you truly can say that you have found a free spirit.
When you think more about the comfort of others and they appreciate it, the relationship is respectful.
Don't say no when you mean yes, and don't say yes when you mean no, because you cheat yourself."
"Very often children are more kind than adults."
"The net that will catch you when you jump of the cliff, is your total trust for yourself and for life when you face your fears and decide to let them go."
"If something doesn't work for you, change it.
If you don't get well with someone, say thank you and find someone else.
If you can't adapt, you are not ready yet.
If cooperation doesn't work, that's ok.
Chemistry is not only between lovers but also in any formal relationships among people in general.
Some people are attracted to one another and some are repelled and that is normal."
"Learn to let go and see how much you will gain."
"I have learned to say No to worry and Yes to life."
"It's "the balance" that we urge. "The harmony" that we look for. "The matual chemistry and understanding" that we search. "The acceptance not refuse" that we hope."
"I always knew I will not live a very typical life, I always knew that I don't blend to any cultural background, that I will stay aloof despite being in crowds. I have always been aware that being mixed raced I will not belong to any race completely. And the fact that I have lived in many countries and been introduced to different cultures and languages made me different. My accent is a bit different and my world visions may vary and probably I perceive the world in a broader lense. I have fully accepted my difference in a society. Now, I see my shortcomings as strengths. Sometimes you need balls to stand up, walk out to stay yourself. True to yourself but you risk, and when you risk you loose your sense of belonging. This is why probably I always had strong desire for individualism and independence. It's not that I am too adventures, it's only a strong longing for freedom."
"Very often some unpleasant situations or bad situations, bring something good, in other words, we can find wisdom in adversity if we trully understand it and learn from it. If one door is closed another is opened and sometimes even better."
"When we are aware that we are here for only limited time, we become more and more aware of present moment, our longing to live every moment to the optimum rises. And to experience all possibilites that life can provide. We give importance to time, because we learn that life is made of time. We start making wise, right, good, brave and sometimes risky desicions that drive us to more liveliness. We become more loving and receptive to love."
"You can't make anyone love you, in other words, you can't force someone to love you."
"You can't force things to happen to you, the things will happen for you on their own, at right time and at right place."
"Like attracts like."
"Contrasts attract each other as well."
"Nothing lasts forever."
"In life there are ups and downs, and then again ups and downs and again ...again."
"If you want to forget forgive and vise versa."
"Not everything that glitters is gold."
"You have to learn to let go things that you don't need in your life."
"Simplicity makes you rich in your soul."
"Let go toxic people from your life."
"The moment you know your worth, people will feel that."
"It takes so long to make friends and seconds to lose them, due to some argument or different opinion."
"People don't want to repair broken relationship, once it is broken, they leave. Very few have guts to solve, renew, upload the relationship and start from all over again."
"Only strong people can handle broken people."
"Time goes fast when we are busy and when we start to enjoy things. And time goes slow when we are depressed or bored."
"Past is gone and never ever will come back, present is the only „real“ time you have, the future is only a dream that haven't come true yet. Present is the only reality we have."
"There are two kinds of people, those who open the doors and those who build the walls."
"We don't own others."
"Speak up for yourself, be your own guardian, if you have lost your voice, find it."
"The more we get older, the more we appreciate quality people, quality time, quality food, quality free time, being useful and giving values to others."
"Life is the best teacher it will teach you everything you need to know."
"Weigh your words, some can take literally what you say."
"When we fall down we loose what we don't need. In falling is cleaning. In falling is letting go. We let go of unneeded stuff. We say goodbye to welcome new."
"Show up in life. What does to show up mean ? To be there, to be present, sincere and attentive in every moment."
"There is no right decision nor wrong decision. Very often we are under the pressure when we need to make a decision, usually an important one. And very often when we have many options it's harder to make decision. Because our mind has tendency to complicate things when we are under stress so we become unsure and insecure. There is no right decision nor wrong decision. There are just different consequences due to different decisions."
"What is difference between a feeling and a thought? Well, I think that a feeling is a transformed thought from "state of logic" into more "complex and wholistic state". And I see it as "a reflection of our perception of ourselves and the world around us". In other words, "feeling comes from soul" whereas "thought comes from mind" or "feeling is spiritual" wheras "thought is rational"."
"Thoughts are strong when you empower them with emotions, if you keep them detached from emotions or feelings they are less important, weak, random or powerless."
"The revolutionary education system. I have learned that my "mind (brain)" is the most powerful organ in my body. And I have learned that "time" is the best teacher. And "the best lessons" are life lessons. I made a decision to study and learn from virtual mentors from all around the world. This self-education, we can call it as "the revolutionary education", it's your private school and private university, you go there when you want, and you study what you want :)"