Notes from Esther Perels talk on youtube

These are some notes I have taken while listening and watching to Esther Perel video on youtube.

The talk is called modern love and relationships

Esther Perel

Modern love and relationships

Marriage in past was until the death, not as we have it today till love dies.

Never before the survival of family depended on the happiness of couple.

The quality of your relationships is what determines the quality of your life.

The transformation of jealousy

Let jealousy remind you that you don't have less than others because you too can have anything in this life.

Don't be jealous of somebody because they have something that you want, let jealousy define what is it that you want, and start working on that.

Transform jealousy into a process that highlights you desires.

If you are jealous of talented women, this does not mean that they are better or more than you, meaning it's time for you to stop playing small, and give yourself permission to embrace all the beauty and talents that you have too.

Something to watch, a talk by amazing and extremely wise lady Esther Perel, she is literally a rockstar

Esther Perel | Modern Love and Relationships | SXSW 2018


another talk:

Esther Perel: The Truth About Infidelity, Intimacy, and Love with Lewis Howes

Reflection on job

We walk through life, without realising how precious is the time. "For time is what life is made of."

They say that job defines people, because it is an extension of who they are. That can be true but only for some.

I will explain my entire reflection on this.
Some people go to regular work to earn money... however their work is only a medium to make a living. Their self-realization comes from another aspects of their life which can be doing sports... relationship...or parenting. And that's completely fine.

Thoughts many of us have

"I was too kind, too empathetic, too good, too friendly, too nice, too open, too eager, too close, too available, too feminine, too compationate, too trustful, too naive, too childlike with wonder, too enthusiastic to get to know you, to get on with you. And from you, dear unknown or known one, I have learned to be realistic, rational, more private, more selfish, more closed and distant. Yesterday I was one who would run to you, today I am one who loves running as a sport activity. Yesterday I was searching, waiting, hoping, today I am content.